Educational. Are you ready to dive into the next 5 hot tips from “My Top 100 Sex Tips to Spice Up Your Love Life, Create More Intimacy and Have Better Orgasms”
Awesome! Here are my tips for today!
Do an activity together that revs up your adrenaline
Did you know that sexual excitement is very similar stimuli in the brain to fear or physical arousal? It’s true. In fact, several prominent studies have been done that show a link between sexual arousal and the adrenaline rush we get from thrill-seeking activities, in which participants had a higher degree of sexual attraction between members of the opposite sex after adrenalin producing activities. Even physical activity (without fear or the sense of danger) can produce similar results.
So, plan a few dates where you can try a few edgy activities together like bungee jumping, riding a roller coaster, rock climbing, go carts, or even just hiking or working out together.
Get physical and get that adrenaline pumping!
Try something new
Routine sex can become a bit of a drag with time. Same old thing, not very exciting. Introducing new ways to play together or have sex, something that takes you out of your comfort zone, creates erotic tension, which can be great for spicing up your sexual relationship.
Try some new things in the bedroom, like a new position, a sex toy, share an erotic fantasy that you haven’t tried, or experiment with role playing or even BDSM to rev up your sexual juices. Trying new sexual adventures is similar to fear based activities, because of the uncertainty it creates. Uncertainty is one of Tony Robbins’ 6 Human Needs, because novelty creates stimulation and arousal. This is also one of the reasons people cheat on each other.
So, take a walk on the wild side and try something new and exciting sexually, to keep that spark alive.
Speaking of something new, I’ve just launched my brand new sex ed video site with lots of new instructional videos for you to learn from, like my “One Week of Pleasure” video which teaches you more about erotic exploration and sexual adventure that will blow the roof off an ordinary sex life. Be sure to check it out!
I have written extensively about the importance of foreplay in sex. Foreplay is SO important because it helps women build desire and get turned. This in turn leads to better, more satisfying sex and greater chance of orgasms.
So, what is foreplay? It is about seduction, making out, building arousal. It is emotional, psychological and physical. It can start with a sexy text message early in the day to let your lover know how much you desire her and can’t wait to see her tonight for some very special sexy time. It can continue with buying her flowers, taking her to dinner, going dancing, or making out at a Drive in Movie. It can involve lots of kissing with clothes on and barely touching to build anticipation. Leading to fondling, oral play and eventually the big finally.
Play a game tonight and see how long you can give and receive foreplay without giving into having sex. The longer you wait the bigger your arousal (and hers!) and the better the orgasms!
No orgasm sex
What is “no orgasm sex”? No, its not the frustrating type of sex that you have when you want to get off and can’t. Rather, it is a type of sexual exploration called ‘Sensate Focus” where you explore each other’s body to find out which types of touch builds arousal and to build intimacy together. The goal is not to orgasm, but to explore what turns us on and to get to know one another better sexually.
This type of sexy play helps improve sensuality and intimacy between couples, teaches you how to go slow, teaches us how to pay attention to our own senses and just focus on arousal, rather than having an ultimate goal in mind. This also helps relieve the stress of performance, and allows us to just get into our bodies, and learn to give and receive.
Why bother? Because it makes us better lovers and makes us better at becoming orgasmic, two of the most important objectives we aspire to achieve in our sexual relationships.
Talk dirty to me baby, oh yeah! Talking dirty during sex can really heighten arousal for both partners. Even just talking about sex itself (it doesn’t have dirty, it can be tender as well) can heighten the senses and imagination.
Many people often find it difficult to talk dirty during sex, however, because they feel insecure or silly. So, start off with just making sounds, like “mmm”, “ahhh” and then move into using just one word, like “fuck”, “yeah”, “OMG!”. Other ways you can talk dirty is by talking about how you feel, “oh that feels so good”, or about what your partner is doing to you, “oh, I love it when you [insert sexual activity here]”. Complimenting her on how she looks and how much she is turning you on is another great way to hone your sexual vocabulary.
If you want to really get into it, talk about what you are going to do to her just before you do it. This is a sure fire way to get her libido jumping. Or, you could try describing a fantasy that you both share. Mmm, mmm, good!
So those are my top sexy tips for today. Pick one and try it out (or add them to your sexy bucket list to try them all!). Get adventurous baby!